Battered Women

Why do we think that the atrocious things that are done to us is somehow our fault. We look for a rationalization perhaps at first that is the good in us. Searching. Maybe this messed up situation happened because of xy and z. We want to see the good in our reasoning. It is this very type of thought that could be your last one if we are not careful to consider.

Maybe if I did not mess up or make so many faults throughout the duration of the day or my relationship. Maybe they would not have decided not to beat or hit me. Maybe if I alter my behaviour or modify what I do. Maybe then my abusive husband will not be angry with me and eventually abuse me.

Constantly looking for a vice. You know the old cliche walking on egg shells? We walk on eggshells is a type of tell we are maybe not ready to admit to ourselves. Anger will not cease because we reward or are super affectionate.

We know this is not true though? Right at least we do. Walking on egg shells is not the antidote to someone who chooses to beat or hit you, or abuses you in anyway. Tipping toeing around this gruesome truth of being man handled by your husband is not going to change the fact you both have a problem. It's likely going to happen again in spite of the eggs shells. Life is going to happen and you will be at the mercy of this person's abuse if you don't change your thoughts and blaming yourself for what happened.

Sometimes things are just not good for us.

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