Sugar Bites- This Land Is Your Land

As I write this out this is such a huge blessing and revelation in my life. I want to be transparent about the sugar that bites. I want to gift wrap this precious gift back to You Abba, Jesus, Holy Spirit. I also want to gift it to anyone who desires Jesus Christ and marriage.

Marriage is so real and precious; unfortunately, by looking at stats we may not see it that way. It is a blessing. We can end up in positions in our lives of making the very good nutritious things our Heavenly Father has indeed designed for us to enjoy into things that cut us and wound us.

This was my experience most of my life going through divorce I had this deep longing of wanting to be married, I just had this desire to be a wife and have a family. In my mind, it always appeared to equate to success to me. It spoke of what purpose look like to me foundationally. It seemed like a good thing, a healthy thing to want, to desire.

The only problem is looking back, I see how my desire came from a broken heart, and that broken heart did not really understand what it exactly I was asking for.

What I was asking for was something I was not ready for! Marriage is serious. I wanted marriage but out of a broken place in my heart, my soul. I wanted a family; a real family because I never really had one. I was asking marriage to do what only Jesus Christ can. I was subconsciously asking marriage to come in and fill this place in my life. I heard this before and it is so true.

Certain things in our lives and experiences we all will go through in relationships with other people. We are going to have to be really honest. We are going to have to say to them, "don't ask me to do things for you only Jesus can." If we don't we can end up crushing, destroying other people or other people will end up crushing us. Some burdens only Jesus Christ was made to carry.

I exalted marriage above Jesus. I allowed it to sit on the throne of heart, and to my own selfishness, it was an idol in my life. instead of asking Jesus to come and fulfill that place in my heart I sought after and accepted toxic disastrous relationships. Only by the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ am I sitting here writing about it. I am not even bitter I am just so thankful that Jesus Christ came for me and did not leave me in those broken places of catastrophe.

The desire was not the is not the problem, the intention of why I desired it became extremely problematic. No one can and will be able to love us like Jesus can and does. He is the only one who can fill all those places we don't even understand about ourselves. The truth is Jesus knows us better than we know ourselves, and if we allow Him; He will show us who we really are. He knows everything about us from the beginning to the end.

It breaks His heart when we are hurt, especially when that hurt comes from this deficit of not understanding His love for us. It is easy in our culture to get sucked up in this wave of being the perfect partner, pursuing marriage, and all those amazing things. If the Lord is calling you into a marriage that is awesome and it is a position of honor. It is not something to take lightly, and by that, I mean the condition of our own souls.

Marriage is an amazing gift, and the Lord does want to give us the desires of our hearts, but when He says we are ready. I pray that all who enter into covenant relationships that like Esther we bring ourself before the Lord. Prepare for understanding your purpose and destiny in the Kingdom. We must understand our assignments and calling without which we can never know what fits us. It is painful to have the Lord Jesus pulling you one way and a relationship pulling you in the wrong direction trust me the Lord wins. Why? because His love is real.

If this is you and you want to be married and you want a partner, I challenge you to carefully examine yourself of the why's. Why's are so important! They are more important than the results. I ask family we all do this to save ourselves from the disaster and pain that comes from not doing a good sweeping before the Lord.

Marriage is beautiful and we often do because of our society and culture get sucked up into the glamor of it. Marriage is a lot of things and can be glamorous, yes a wedding is beautiful, and dates and true intimacy is a good thing to pursue with Jesus Christ at the center of it. It can also be a lot of hard loving work to serve another person and put them before yourself. It is hard to wake up every single day of your life and choose, to love your spouse before yourself. This is not natural to humans. Just like in our relationship with Jesus.

Family let us not be a generation of people who love the glamor and will not do the work. It would bring joy to my heart to see all of us being made better and functioning in the sanctity of marriage. That our marriages would be an example to the world. Marriage is a ministry. That when the world looks at us they will see Jesus.

Love with power, purpose, and long-suffering. But first, may we never forget all of this is impossible without knowing and loving Jesus Christ strong and confidently. Jesus Christ is the source of all love and the gas in our cars. Let us be confident in our relationship with Jesus before our relationships with men and woman.

If we can put the first thing first we will experience true joy. I believe this. I love you all.

Blessings.